Some women should never become moms. Seriously.
Day after day, I see moms totally uninterested in interacting with their children, sometimes even ignoring them completely. Everywhere I go, I see kids running amuck, acting like maniacs, screaming, crying, begging for toys or candy, and acting like plain brats.
Gee, where’s mom?
Oh, she’s over there on the phone texting or blabbing away like her children don’t even exist. Oh, she’s never home. Her parents always have her kids. Oh, she thinks the TV or Xbox is a baby sitter.
What happened to paying attention to kids?
What happened to the days of discipline?
Discipline doesn’t mean a beating, spanking them all the time, or even spanking them at all. Discipline can be as simple as using a stern “no” or even opening your mouth and explaining to your children why their behavior is totally unacceptable. In fact, a child should never be disciplined without explanation.
Letting kids be disrespectful to anyone can be detrimental to them as adults. Respect starts as children.
We can’t just let kids do whatever they want and expect them to grow into well-rounded, productive adults. It just doesn’t work that way.
Some of these kids need to come to my house and see the true meaning of being a parent.
I am in no way claiming to be the perfect mom, or that my family is perfect, or that my children never get in trouble or act like brats. But I do dole out the discipline if I see fit and I don’t care where we are, who is around, or what kind of icy cold stare downs I get from other people.
If my kids get out of line, I handle it. And if they continue to act in a way I feel is inappropriate, they get in trouble. They know I mean business once it gets to a certain point, and I rarely even have to spank them. I can pretty much just give them my mom-stare, and they know they better knock off the shenanigans. My kids respect and love me because I pay attention to them.
I talk to them, read to them, play with them, take them places they want to go and do things that interest them. I also discipline my children, but still treat them with respect.
It’s like kids run their parents these days and it’s just ridiculous.
So mom, get off your damn phone and pay attention to your kids. Read them a book, play “Ring Around the Rosie” and “Duck Duck Goose” with them, cuddle them, but most of all love them, tell them you love them 1,000 times a day, give lots of hugs and kisses, and treat them with the respect you expect them to treat you with.
They won’t be kids forever. Teach them all you can about family, love and respect now.
Life is a lot better when your kids are happy and full of love.
Elizabeth • Nov 6, 2011 at 4:02 pm
I hope to see an article on dads now that moms have been covered.
Anyway, when I finished reading this article and saw that right next to it was “Congress did not approve this war” I would have liked that to have been the story front and center of page.
Elizabeth • Nov 6, 2011 at 3:59 pm
I guess you could say I was offended by this article. I read it from the actual paper. The first thing I noticed was the word “mom”. I am a mother so it got my attention. Second, I noticed it was at the top of the page, and visually, it attracted me more than the other articles. The first sentence, “Some women should never become moms.” OUCH! That has to hurt. Immediately I start thinking about my skills or values as a mother. As I read on, I noticed the writer immediately attacking moms. “Everywhere” she goes she sees kids running around crazy? I highly doubt that. And I highly doubt she always see’s mom on their phone. How about dad? Where is he? Have you ever thought what might mom be going through? I believe it is both parents responsiblities to discipline their children not just mom.
When it comes to generalizing that mom is never home, or that video games have become babysitters… that is beyond the “everywhere I go, I see kids running amuck,” could it be the writer knows someone who does that? Rather than seeing it everywhere she goes?
I do agree that times are changing and life isn’t the same way it was when I was a child. I didn’t have video games to entertain myself with. And my mom didn’t have a cell phone to distract herself. Maybe the real issue is not on the parents, but on society.
I love my little girl sooo much and I tell her I love her so many times a day, I hug her, I kiss her and I give her attention as much as possible, but I too have other things to do. I am a student here at BC, I am a wife, and I have a social life. I also have other duties to attend to. My daughter is healthy, she knows I love her, and she gets her discipline, OH and sometimes I let the tv entertain her while I take a break and browse my phone and the internet. Should I not have been a mom?
Maybe Ms. McGowan has terrible luck and only sees that side of moms?